Which image is pulling you in for a message?
Card Number One
HONOR YOUR NEED TO FEEL SAFE BOTH PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. RESPECT YOUR FEELINGS AND ALLOW OTHERS THEIRS.
Every one of us operates from our own context and unique set of life experiences. As social creatures, we may give advice and comments to our friends, just as we often encounter comments, judgments, and advice from other people. Sometimes, this feedback may benefit us. Sometimes, it does not.
Many of us may have come from backgrounds where it was common for others to judge and direct our personal affairs. Giving in to external authority, we may “keep the peace” but become unhappy with the choices that others have made for us! Becoming aware of how this practice can be detrimental, we need to learn to set boundaries around us of what is ours to decide in our own lives. We need to respect the space and boundaries of other people as well.
We should know ourselves and our own needs best. We need to be clear that others have no authority over how we feel, what we think, or what we need to do for ourselves, especially if they do not have to live with the consequences of their advice to us.
We should always be wary of others trying to extend control beyond their own lives and into ours, some going so far as to restrict our behavior and opinions so as to reward us with their conditional approval. We should pay attention that we do not do the same thing to other people too.
Know where your boundaries are and communicate them clearly and assertively to others.
Card Number Two
LOVE YOUR SHADOW
LOVE YOURSELF AS YOU ARE. DOING SO, YOU ACCEPT AND WORK WITH THE FLAWS IN YOURSELF, AND LEARN TO ACCEPT OTHERS AS THEY ARE.
The shadow is an idea from Jungian psychology that describes the part of us (usually “negative”) that we are unconscious of, that we neglect or even outright deny.
When we refuse to acknowledge our shadow, we are prone to projecting our shadow onto others, perceiving traits in other people that may or may not be truly there.
Doing so can be a symptom of a shortcoming in ourselves that we have not yet come to terms with. For example, you may perceive confident people as being arrogant when it is you still struggling to find a happy level of self-confidence.
Coming to terms with our shadow is a life-long process, and necessary when we set out to heal, love, and master ourselves. Simply put, we can endeavor to learn about and acknowledge our flaws and strengths. We can understand them and accept that they’ve been with us for a while.
We can recognize and integrate our shadow by becoming conscious of this part of us, taking responsibility for our shortcomings, and being more proactive in managing our insecurities.
This card may appear when there is an opportunity for us to examine and acknowledge a trait previously unknown to us. The trait may be a constructive or restrictive one.
Card Number Three
YOU ARE ALLOWED TO GROW AND TO CHANGE YOUR MIND, YOUR ATTITUDES, AND BELIEFS TO BECOME STRONGER, LIGHTER, AND HAPPIER.
Life will toss us new experiences. These experiences are meant to help us to grow, expand and evolve. Some experiences may dissolve our previous illusions and false beliefs.
Wisdom lies with realizing when we need to let go of beliefs that no longer serve us, especially if they divide us from others, or prevent us from acting from our hearts and living to our fullest potential.
You may see this card come up when you are unsure about an evolving truth. You may feel as if you require permission to let go of a belief that no longer serves you. You really do not need anyone’s permission but your own.
Fear comes when we speculate about the friends or support that we may lose because of our changing beliefs. Friendships based on superficial values may indeed be lost. Those around you who truly love you are more likely to see and celebrate all the positive changes that make you happier, lighter, and freer. True friends will celebrate your joys and triumphs with you.
We were never meant to live our lives without ever experiencing changes and personal growth. The new you will attract a new circle of supportive and loving friends.
Card Number Four
SWINGING FROM ONE EXTREME TO ANOTHER CAN PUT ONE OUT OF BALANCE. EVERYTHING IN MODERATION, INCLUDING MODERATION.
If you find that there’s “too much” of something in your life, you are probably right. It’s even possible to have too much of a good thing!
The solution to such a situation isn’t to go to the other extreme, because that only perpetuates an unending cycle. As one example, we sometimes face recurring disappointments in our lives, and choose to “give up” and become passive about our dreams. Submissiveness and passivity can breed frustration that turns into extreme and misdirected aggression. Aggression that accomplishes little can lead to a feeling of defeat, that may turn into fatigue and passivity again.
If we are noticing extremes and repetitive cycles in our own lives or in our environment, it may be time to sit down quietly and think of a new way to do things.
The new way must come from an understanding of ourselves, our needs, and what our environment can realistically provide. We can not be too rigid in our requirements, lest we turn into despots. Neither do we want to become doormats with no will of our own.
This card may indicate that the answer to a current situation lies in finding the balance between two extremes, or in finding a middle ground among two or more parties.
Much love, light and self love blessings, Tiffany Stiles ❣️
Today’s reading was compiled with Self Love Oracle Cards by Janet Chui intuitively selected for you by Tiffany Stiles.
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