~What To Expect When You Meet Your Twin FLAME~🔥

As we all know, A Twin flame relationship is not all ‘perfect’, as one might expect, especially in the beginning, usually the first few years. After reading or hearing about Twin Flames and their perfectly balanced energies, many people think it would be like a fairy tale, that you find your twin flame and live happily ever after kind of thing. It is not. It is a perfect relationship, but it needs some work from both the partners.


Twin flames are two souls (people) who were created in the beginning from one single soul unit with male and female aspects together. This singular soul unit was a unified energy sphere of male and female, that split into two souls creating the twin souls. A soul is made of energy much like electricity and is in essence a blue flame. This is why they are called twin flames. Each of these two souls after the split was a new and complete soul. Just as cells divide and become new complete cells, or a hologram is cut into pieces and each has the entire picture within it, identical to the original picture. Each soul has all the things necessary to be a complete functioning soul. The souls were polarized, one embodying mostly the male energy and one mostly the female energy of the original sphere. Each also retains a part of the other within them.


They may be different on many levels, but on many other levels they are also exactly the same. The yin and yang symbol is one of the best illustrating this with each side holding a small dot of the other.


There are, as I see it, five main phases of a twin flame relationship. Everyone understands the twin flame relationship differently… and there are no clear timelines or specific periods for any of these phases.

Each differs for every twin flame couple. I’m giving you this information so that you can understand this relationship better.
There are no rules. And there is no one-size-fits-all in a Twin flame relationship. Each relationship will be unique, just like each couple. Having said that, here are the five main phases that usually resonate with all Twin Flames in some way:

~Phase One~

~The Preparation🔥

This phase comes BEFORE you meet your twin flame, but I’m counting it as one of the phases as It is very much a part of your Twin Flame relationship.

What Happens In This Phase?

~ Karmic Relationships ~
There are one or few seriously devastating relationships. These begin with strong emotions and end painfully. These are called Karmic Relationships. Emptiness and Strong desire for ‘The One.’ After you’ve been through the Karmic Relationships, you’ll have a very deep yearning or desire to find ‘The One’. At this point you will desire meeting your perfect love, whose image you will carry in your imagination (or in some cases in Dreams). This Image is of your Twin flame, although you probably won’t realize it at this point. This happens because your soul knows your Twin flame is coming!

Phase Two~ The Meeting ~ A Glimpse Of Heaven🔥

This is the phase when you meet your Twin Flame for the first time (in this incarnation). You might try to resist at this point but you will fall for him/her anyway. Then comes a short period of ‘perfection.’ This is what I like to call A Glimpse of Heaven.

What happens In this Phase?🔥

~ The First Meeting
You’ll meet your Twin Flame in unusual circumstances or at some unexpected place. (A place where you would not expect meeting your life partner/soulmate). You’ll find this person somehow ‘special’ at this point. Even though you might not even think of them as a partner.

~ The Initial Attraction🔥
You’ll soon find yourself being attracted to your Twin Flame.
You might not be ready for a relationship, because of the karmic relationships that you’ve been through, and so you might try to resist this attraction. You’ll fall anyway. Deeply in love. A short period of the most ‘Perfect’ relationship that you’ve ever experienced. After the initial attraction, You’ll find yourself in a deeply romantic relationship. It will seem perfect in every possible way. You’ll find all that you want in your partner and much more. This is what the Twin Flame relationship is actually supposed to be like, and this is what it becomes (if not better) after you get through the problems that surface in this next phase. This short period makes you aware of the perfection of yourself and your Twin Flame and brings back the memories that were always deep within you. This makes you want to go through the next phase, which is a little tough. Its like a trailer for what your relationship is going to be in phase four, after the reunion.

~Spiritual Enlightenment~

~ Phase Three ~The Dance 🔥

This phase is resolving what is known as the Karma. This is the tough one! It starts after you’ve been in a relationship with your Twin Flame for a while. In this phase, all the accumulated negativity and lower emotions come to surface. This seems difficult to go through at the human level, but it is actually a truly Divine process in which the Twin flames get deeply cleansed with each other’s help. This lets them achieve higher energy levels so that they can ascend in bliss together. This is also the phase where both twin flames get spiritually enlightened! This is when they search and find their spiritual reality. If you’re currently in a Twin Flame relationship, you’re probably in this phase, as this is the period of time when you usually begin finding information on this.

~ What Happens in this Phase?

~Arguments/Fights 🔥
This phase brings many arguments and fights. This happens because the negativity that each partner is carrying within, usually at a subconscious level, comes to surface. The Twin Flame will reflect this like a mirror, and so you’ll think it’s in them, when in reality its in you. This begins the deep cleansing process.

~ The Blame Game 🔥
Each Twin Flame sees their own negativity and clutter in their Twin Flame, it is mirrored to one another. Also, deep seated fears and frustrations surface, so you think it’s happening because of the other and start blaming each other. You consciously might not realize it, but this is clearing all your clutter and lower vibrational energies and emotions…which is a good thing!

~ The Runner And The Chaser🔥
The arguments and the blaming causes a lot of confusion and turmoil, because usually the spiritual process is not understood by the conscious mind, as we are conditioned to trust logic more that feeling. One Twin Flame, at this point, takes the role of the ‘Runner’ (which is usually the man). The Runner tries to avoid the partner and runaway from the relationship. This happens because the runner doesn’t consciously know what is going on and feels like he’s losing control. In our defense system, we build up huge walls to protect ourselves. THIS HAPPENS AS SOON as we meet someone who will help us to repeat our patterns of abuse, abandonment, betrayal, and/or deprivation. This happens because those people feel familiar. Unfortunately in childhood, the people whom we trusted the most and who were the most familiar hurt us the most. So the effect is that we keep repeating our patterns and being given the reminder that it is not safe to trust ourselves or other people. So the running ensues, until the karmic lessons and patterns are resolved.

~ The Chaser🔥
The other Twin Flame now becomes what I call the ‘Chaser’ (usually the woman). The Chaser is spiritually more aware than the Runner at some level and tries to ‘Chase’ or ‘run after’ the Runner. The chaser usually wants some sort of commitment at this point. This happens as the Chaser subconsciously or consciously wants to get over with this tough phase so that both of them can reunite. The Chaser is deeply shocked and hurt by the ‘running’ and unexpected behavior of the Runner. This is when they feel the need to understand what really is happening and so they start searching or reading about it. This usually leads to the enlightenment of the Chaser. The Runner becomes spiritually enlightened too, either through the Chaser’s conscious effort, or by receiving a ‘Soul Shock’ when the Chaser gives up and walks away from the Runner Twin Flame. This phase thus gets stretched longer the more the Runner runs. Ultimately, the runner does return and the Karma is finally fully resolved.

~The Reunion~Eternal Bliss~

~ Phase Four ~ The Reunion🚻🔥

This is the phase of the reunion.
This is when the split soul becomes one again. This happens first at the level of the soul and then in the physical plane. (Yes, that’s when you usually get married, unless, as in rare cases your physical reunion is not a part of that plan). The reunion happens when both the partners are fully aware of their spiritual reality.

~Phase Five🔥

Eternal Bliss~Being LOVE

This is the ‘Happily Ever After’ Phase. Both Twin Flames will be fully spiritually aware and spiritually enlightened at this time. There is perfect love and harmony. The Twin Flames now enjoy their Sacred Love and Intimacy, and have the power to manifest whatever they can imagine! The world truly becomes their canvas and muse… and they paint it with the colors of LOVE.

At the end of their journey on Earth, they ascend together,
and go on to experience more
just like they always have…
in other worlds and other planets, in this universe and beyond!
Together, In love, Joy, and Peace
Together, In Eternal Bliss…

Meditation To Draw Your Twin Flame In:

Have you met your Twin Flame yet? I’d love to hear your experiences with your Twin Flame Union.


Much love, light and blessings on your continued journey.


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9 thoughts on “Twin FLAME~ What To Expect When You Meet Yours~

  1. My mind is blown. This is beyond accurate and I can’t wait to show my twin flame. I was trying to explain our current phase to him, but this communicates it better. He is currently a runner, letting his past hurt destroy him all over again, causing him to worry too much (he has been disrespected,verbally abused, and cheated on). He will be very happy to read this because he knows I would never repeat what he’s been through. He also doesn’t like how his feeling like this upsets me, but I keep telling him I understand why this is happening. We can’t imagine life without each other. We knew each other for almost 10 years before I mustered the courage to express my feelings for him. He thought I wasn’t interested in him so he never acted on his feelings for me. Then 4 years ago we kept bumping into each other at random places. I took that as a big sign and jumped at the opportunity. We were both in 3 very bad relationships before we learned our lessons. We aren’t rushing our relationship. We are letting it flow and enjoying every second of the ride. We don’t argue, we communicate. He may be in the running phase, but he still communicates what he’s feeling. We always work through everything. I’m not sure if we’ve ever even had a disagreement. We are literally the same person. Our love is deep rooted and strong, while our passion and chemistry is even stronger. Thank you for this post, it will put him at ease that this is normal. Namasté

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  2. This is a lovely description. I am becoming aware that eastern and western perspectives differ and so I’m picking what resonates. You write so poetically and calmly, Tiffany. Thank you.

    The person I thought was my twin flame until I read this, may actually just be a karmic relationship since he is the first person I fell in love with, age 26, and online. Haven’t met him in person yet couldn’t let him go for 5 years. He left me by text two months into our getting to know each other because I wanted communication and reminded him of a mother (nurturing). He then married his then girlfriend (of whom I had no knowledge of) a year later. They are still very happily married four years on.

    I was still deluding myself about unconditional love and twin flames and all that. Recently, I was in love with a very nice, down to earth, kind, encouraging man whom I worked with (just left my job). He’s happily married with two kids. Not my twin, just a lovely soul mate expander.

    But I got confused and thought he’d leave his family (because I felt empty and incomplete without a relationship).

    The first guy, was still haunting me and I really want to be in a fulfilling and mutual relationship. So I emailed him asking him to answer a few questions so I could get closure and learn from my mistakes as to why they don’t seem to like or love me back. He refused to answer the questions, except one. He called me a fool, gave me stupid comments how I was like Marmite, told me this was his last message to me, since i am a fool he is making exceptions with, and then at the very end said he had felt a connection, and had had two dreams telling him to wait. One was the day before his wedding (Bollywood style) telling him his current wife wasn’t the one.

    So he goes, any who, you live and learn!

    I don’t want to even entertain any thoughts on a man happily married for four years, travelling the world with his love and also soon to be a first time father.

    Last weekend, I along with a group of people guided by a friend, we jumped into the new grids being formed for 5D which means all my old reference points about life have been destroyed.

    I have prayed I can dissolve the old twin flame matrix. I want to. I lost 5 years of peace and sanity over this person. I’ve not met him physically, he disrespects and hates me, I don’t know him as a person either because he never showed me.

    We write our own worldly scripts before coming here, and I was a crappy script writer.

    I am quite aware that he may not grow spiritually and not all twin flames reunite even in this Aquarian age. He may not leave a wife and kids. I wouldn’t if I were in his position.

    So, I like to think that this was a really densely karmic connection, mostly on my part as he seems removed from any intensity of feeling. And from love 🙂

    So these are preparing me for a person who will love me.

    By deleting memories, healing them… We move forward to a place of being whereby we are in love with all of life. So that everyone is special to us and we feel no lack because we are madly in love with divine source.

    I had prayed as a young Rumi friend to gain closeness and love of God and the unseen and the creatures of God the way the mystics do.

    Herein is the fire purifying my soul.

    If you have love for any other creature consuming and obsessing you, still a way to go 🙂 this includes spiritual gurus. I think this friend hurt me more than the men. Because the person you entrust your soul with controls your life. And when they fail and fall, you go… Whoa!!

    Thank you, dear xxx beautiful awareness, writing. Your posts are very healing. Muah. Blessings


  3. Thank you Tiffany . This is such a wonderful validation. In a hypnotherapy sessionhad actually seen the wings of an angel split in 2 parts – and one became me and the other wing was my twin flame.
    My and my twin flame are in phase 3. I am obviously the chaser and he’s just being obtuse. Phase 2 was glorious and he was so aware too and then he completely cut me off.


  4. What a ride, truly a spiritual journey. Faith has my patience, journals and paintings from my adolescent years prove my spirit is not crazy. I must say when the mind and ego step in and replace spirit and heart it can get messy. One thing I know is this LOVE never ends, it is Unconditional (love without condition). Know it – Feel it – Believe it. You just have to let go and live in this moment, right now, this one, second by second. Feel and allow the light to guide you. I remember this day Feb 24th, 2016 because we have been running from each other after meeting for nearly 2 years and one 2/22/2016 We met for a magnetic dance and after all the time had passed – he had never left me, I felt him everyday and my heart smiled. What made the meeting more than average was before we left the moment to continue on our separate journeys for now, he looked in me and said, “You know… I love You,” Sealed the deal in my heart, well until ego trip came during a menstrual cycle and full moon in Aries the following month. Its a journey of a lifetime and I know in the end there is only the beginning. Doubt is not Love – It is Fear. I asked my father how to get over a fear, and he responded ” Understand it “. So….. I love You All. LOVE and LIGHT ……. That is what we are inside of these amazing vessels. Beautiful Beautiful Loving Spirits messing up the mother earth. (That is how I deal with time – If I see a Problem – I FIND a SOLUTION and ACT on it.) Depression can only take us into the shadows if we become so self absorbed that we can not see past our selves. (Good thing I found is there is no better place to see the light than when we are deep deep in the dark. Ok… I dont know why I am even writing because I never comment on anything, but I guess someone reading this needed something within this. Divine Love is Gods Love – it is divine because of that power and if we forget that and try to take a hold with our own controlling emotional clutches we fall out of alignment and if that happens, your just suppose to catch that moment of awareness and do the work to remove the ego, hand your special love back over to your creator and watch how quickly you realign.


  5. Hi. Just wanted to relay to you that I find this article very accurate. Right now my twin and I are in the Reunion phase (and by no coincidence, reside on Reunion Island)…given glimpses of recurring/returning bliss towards our ascension which keeps us motivated to keep refining. Although he is the male, he hosted the refined female energy to heal me. And now as the dance continues, being the female I happen to host the refined male energy he needs to heal and remain illumed. The energy dynamics can be quite challenging to overcome but remembering to view each other as our divine potentials is the best tool to override any 3D noise that interferes…and there’s a lot. I wish everyone luck, let’s usher in more unified energy for global transformation into 5D. 💚💜


  6. Wow! So eerily accurate! I met a guy on a trip to NZ and fell madly for him. He had a girlfriend at the time, so it was merely friendly but we stayed in touch. He reached out 3 years later when they broke up and came to visit me in the US. It was a lovely visit and near the end, I confessed my feelings for him. His response was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever experienced. He said, “You are everything I could hope for in a woman and the most beautiful that I’ve ever been with, but it’s just not there for me.” My heart broke. My world shattered and fell into a million pieces. He was definitely one of the most heartbreaking of my many karmic relationships.

    6 months later, having lost all hope of finding someone, my roommate dragged me to watch a football game at her friend’s house. I proceeded to drink an entire bottle of wine and chatted up the cutest guy in the room. He didn’t contact me for two weeks, so I figured he wasn’t interested, but 5 years later, we got married.

    It has been a wild ride and I was definitely the runner. He was also my brother in a previous life, so I had to sort through that. However, I think we’re entering the last phase now and I think that the future will be beautiful! It’s a lot of work though!


  7. Even before I knew about twin flames, I had a connection to mine. It was so strong that I was aware if he was nearby. We knew each other for 13 years before we got together, and have been together for 2 years now.
    Our relationship was almost exactly like you wrote, right down the the last part of phase 3, where he is running away. I don’t want to chase him, and make every effort to stop doing so. I don’t want to lose my friend, even if I’m losing my partner.
    It’s scary, letting him go. But I know we both have growth we need to do on our own, and spiritual connections as well.


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